Trust Melts Masks


You don’t know me. You might think you do, but you don’t.


You see, I work in the office next to you, go to your church, I serve on a team with you. Maybe I’ve been one of your friends for years.  


You think you know me, but you don’t.


Sure we get together and hang out. We talk on the phone. I can twitter you or you can Google me. You can become my friend on Facebook, check out my MySpace page, read my blog, delete my annoying spam. I can text you, you can call me back.  


But you don’t know me. When we get together we talk about movies, or kids, or friends, or recipes. Don’t you know that I only put my best pictures on my Facebook page? Those ones that show my gut stay on my computer.  


I only twitter my best moments or bad moments that bring me sympathy. And if I don’t want to connect with you, I can always say my junk-mail filter blocked you, or my phone died.


You see, because you don’t know me.  You only know what I want you to know. 


I suppose you might know a little bit more about me if you read my bank statements, sift through my garbage, scan my browsing history, or read my journal. But I pay with cash, use the neighborhood dumpster, and delete my browsing history. My journal motto is: “If I die before I wake, throw my journal in the lake!”


Like I said…you don’t know me.  


The only way you will really know me, is if I tell you. And, quite frankly, that seems pretty scary. My heart is a security box and the only key to open it is trust.


Can you be trusted?  If so, you might know me.



Want to know more of what this is about?  Visit this link to hear the latest series I taught on being “True Faced”: http://www.beulah.ca/321604.ihtml.



Know Thy Values


Ever sat down and tried to identify your personal values?  I don’t mean the values you’re supposed to have, or the values handed to you from your church, family or workplace.  Are you happy with your personal values?

So many of us are guided by implicit values injected into our psyche by our environment, or stuffed down our throats by the media.  I love the ancient Greek aphorism inscribed at the Temple of Apollo in Delphi: “Know thyself.”  This is a primary truth, a truth that is so essential to understanding your world and how you engage it.  We meet the world through the lenses of our values.  Do you know what your values are?

Your values are like your operating system.  They unconsciously guide your choices every single day.  A values inventory is a worthwhile exercise because it enables you to see the operating system behind the machine.  Sometimes changes need to be made to the operating system.  Sometimes it just needs to be celebrated.

This past year I evaluated, audited and edited my personal values.  While they are incomplete, they show the high points of who I am, the major intersections in my web of being.  Here they are:

inspiring: I will help others see possibilities and move them to change.

pure: I will seek to have a clean heart and mind.

innocent: I will envision the world each day as though I am seeing it for the first time.

dreamer: I will see the impossible rather than embrace the acceptable.

God: I will live in full dependance and devotion to God.

faithfulness: I will keep the covenants and commitments I have made – with joy.

adventurous: I will play, explore, laugh out loud, and roll on the floor.

respect: I will treat all humans with dignity regardless of race, gender or religion.

love: I will live and act in the best interest of those around me.

truth: I will have fierce conversations, each garnished with a dollop of frivolity.

integrity: I will live in such a way that my private life will reveal no surprises to my public audience.

desire: I will embrace and enjoy simple pleasure – food, wine, song and dance – but not abuse them.


After some soul searching and different drafts, what you see is the finished work.  May they define who I am and who I am becoming.


I’m Yellow


I recently acquired my yellow belt in Ju Jutsu.  That’s right, I am now officially dangerous to myself.

Most people who know me understand how much I love basketball.  I would drive for an hour for a game of pick-up.  I decided last fall to take time off from basketball to try something new.  My trip to Africa in October was a life changing experience that left me wanting to try new things.  I can always play basketball but I’ve never taken up a martial art before.  Besides, deep down inside, doesn’t every boy want to be a ninja?

So after some research, I landed at a great dojo in my area of the city.  Check it out at www.celterre.com.  Kudos to Sensei Trevor…he is a very good teacher.

There are tons of lessons that I have gained this past year in Ju Jutsu.  I think the greatest lesson has been one in “decreasing gain” (I talk about this in another blog posting).  I have learned the value of knowing nothing, of reaching my limits, of having to start at the bottom of the totem pole.  Ju Jutsu is not something you just pick up.  Every class I attend brings new understanding and a greater appreciation for my limitations.  I find myself decreasing, but the result is nothing but increase for my attitude and spirit.