A Love Story?

This Sunday, Crosspoint launches a new teaching series called Love Story. We’ll be diving into the Song of Songs and exploring a number of its themes including attraction, courtship, marriage, intimacy, and conflict.

Some might wonder…Why are we doing this series? I’m aiming to answer this question.

But first, let me talk about the subject matter. Song of Songs is an interesting book. For much of church history, it’s been treated as a taboo text, most often interpreted as an allegory that reveals how Christ loves the church. A strictly allegorical interpretation is problematic, which I won’t get into here. That said, we will be taking the book at face value and interpreting it literally. I understand the book to be a real, flesh-and-blood love story between a man and a woman. It has a lot to teach us about romance, love, intimacy, and sex.

Now, why the series? First, I know a lot of people need help in their relationships. Every week I hear agonizing stories of marriages falling apart or calling it quits. I also do a lot of premarital preparation with young Millennials and I know many of them are eager to learn about building relationships that will thrive and endure. I think most of us in marriages will agree that our relationships could use a tune-up on a regular basis.

Second, our culture is sending mixed messages about romance and sex. Have you ever stopped to think about how confused we have become? On the one hand, we have seen the #metoo and #timesup movements gaining incredible popularity in the Twitterverse and beyond (which they should because there is absolutely no excuse for the sexual harassment or exploitation of women). And yet, on the other hand, in the United States, the porn industry generates $13 billion per year and 1 in 5 searches on a mobile device are for porn. Certainly, most of the women in those videos are being exploited (we can perhaps argue about this point later). Are we culturally confused about sex?

Third, the Song of Songs is in the Bible. If you accept that the Bible is God’s Word for the world, then you should probably accept that God gave it for a reason. 2 Timothy 3:16 (NIV) tells us that “all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful…” Did you catch that? ALL of Scripture is useful. Not some of Scripture. It doesn’t say, “All Scripture is useful…except for that naughty bit of poetry after Ecclesiastes…you can ignore that one.” The Song of Solomon is useful. Boy, is it ever.

Finally, in a world preoccupied with sex and romantic love, the worst thing the church can do is say nothing. Romantic love is the topic of countless movies and songs. Sex is on the minds of billions of people, every single day. The world is talking about it – why isn’t the church? For example, did you know that the movie Fifty Shades Freed topped the box office a couple of weeks ago? It has raked in over $150 million dollars so far in world-wide sales and the franchise itself has made over one billion dollars. Hollywood has figured out what sells. If this topic is so pervasive, why are we so silent about it? Interestingly enough, Jesus wasn’t. And here’s the kicker…sex and romance were God’s idea in the first place. Why should we take our cues only from Hollywood? Wouldn’t it be great if we could hear from the Designer?

Now, I realize that some would rather avoid this topic, for different reasons than it being a taboo topic. For some, this series could expose deep pain. Maybe you’re single and you don’t want to be. You’ve wrestled with God about it and feel deep disappointment. Or maybe you’re in the middle of a relationship war, or you’ve just been through a break-up. Maybe the last thing you want to hear about are relationships.

First, let me say that my heart breaks with you. I’m not walking in your shoes, but I see your limp. I get it – this series might not be specifically for you. But I hope you understand why we’re doing it. What is more, I hope you will join us each Sunday, because what you don’t need when you’re struggling is isolation. Church isn’t just about hearing a message. It’s about belonging to a people. Christ’s vision for his body is that when one part rejoices, so do the other parts; and when one part is heartbroken, so are the rest.

Also, please know that we don’t believe that a person with a “married” status is of greater value than one with a “single” status (read 1 Cor 7:25-35). At Crosspoint we hold a high view of marriage AND a high view of singleness. People in each status have different concerns, capacities, and challenges. We never want to exclude singles. We’ve taught about singleness in the past and we’ll do so in the future. This just happens to be a series about relationships.

As it turns out, a lot of the relationship principles we will be exploring will apply in other relational contexts such as friendship, workplace, and family. The topics also focus much on becoming the right kind of person. There’s going to be something for each of us to learn. Plus, what you learn you can always pass on to somebody else who needs to hear it.

At the end of the day, Song of Songs is a fascinating book that’s worth getting to know. I hope you will come to love it as much as I have. Join us!

 

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